We've all got 'em. Friends? Or Foes?

"Even though we've changed and we're all finding our own place in the world, we all know that when the tears fall or the smile spreads across our face, we'll come to each other because no matter where this crazy world takes us, nothing will ever change so much to the point where we're not all still friends."

I'm extremely friendly,and very trusting, as I discussed in my previous post. For the most part, it has taken me a while to really find the friends I know will be in my wedding, and be the auntie's to my future children; BUT, I have found them. They have always proved that if I am ever in a horrible situation, or if my back is against the wall, and we have to throw down, they have me without a question. I think it's important to surround yourself with people who are going to bring you up. People who who will tell you the truth, even when it hurts, but most of all, support you when the whole world is against you. My life can be summed up to a series of mis-fortunate events, and the reason why I can always smile my out of it, is because I have the world's greatest, and most supportive family, and truly the best friends a girl can ask for. Just like the quote above says, I know that no matter how far we go, these are the people that I can always call at anytime of the day, or night and they will be there with a lending ear, a shoulder to cry on, or a extra fist to punch whoever has done something horrible to me. They're my backbones, they're the foundation that I put a lot of my trust in. They are the reason that I still believe that mankind is good at heart. They have a huge place in my heart, and to all my friends, you should all know that I love you all very much, and appreciate you all for continuing to be here for me.


Every now and then I get a little easy
I let a lot of people depend on me
I never though they would ever deceive me
Don't you know when times got rough I was standing on my own
I'll never let another get that close to me
You see I've grown a lot smarter now
Sometimes you have to choose and then you'll see
If your friends is true they'll be there with you
Through the thick and thin --'What about your friends. TLC'

I will always love this song, it is a true representation, of how I am feeling. Yes, I have found the friends, that I know will ALWAYS be there for me, but along with finding them, I have realized a few things about certain 'friends' I thought would always be there. It is extremely true, that you don't realize who truly cares, until you're in trouble. It is in drastic situations that you realize who would never leave your side, and who quite frankly would silently step to the background, when the world is trying to chew you apart. I don't want to have anything to do with these fair weather friends. I am going through a lot right now, and I am thankful that I am, because I don't think I would have truly noticed who has my best interest at heart, and who never did. Prime example, I have realized that a lot of people I called friends, fall under the category of 'gossiping' about me, or a present situation, rather then truly trying to protect me. These people unfortunately will never even know they lost me. Part of knowing your self-worth, is knowing what not to accept. I can no longer accept people who don't know what the definition of a friend is. I accept a lot of flaws from my friends, because I myself AM NOT PERFECT, NOR WILL I EVER BE. But I cannot accept people that I have to question their intentions. Life is too short to surround yourself with anything other then positivity. It took a while to truly stand for that, but I am not accepting anything less. I am a good person at heart, and I would protect my friends til the death, but I need the same in return. I deserve the same in return. Anything else, is just unacceptable.

“The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing... not healing, not curing... that is a friend who cares.” -- Henri Nouwen