If we were a [ SECRET ], tell me could you keep it. .

I'll keep you my dirty little secret,
(Dirty little secret)
Don't tell anyone or you`ll be just another regret,
(Just another regret, hope that you can keep it)
My dirty little secret,
Who has to know?

Dirty Little Secret All American Rejects


Being a media major in the 21st century has its ups and downs. One thing I can no longer do, is listen to things, without realizing who their geared towards, and the underlying message their sending across to us all. How many of us, have fallen into the relationships that were 'secrets'? The one's who's core excitement comes from, people not knowing the extent of your relationship.

I don't like people in my business. If you've heard this before, don't be alarmed. Well not at first. For the most part, who really does? I know I don't. No real good comes from people knowing every extent of your relationship. People criticize, and eventually will try and make it crumble. Now, keeping the business of you and your partner private, is fine. (Example: see Beyonce & Jay-Z) The issue only comes, when "I don't like people in my business" really translates to, when we're in public lets not act like we're together. (Example: see Diddy & Cassie)

Baby I (I) won't (won't) tell (tell)
If you don't want me to
Cause I got a thing for you
I'll do anything for ya (girl anything for ya)
Baby I (I) won't (won't) tell (tell)
I'll never do bad to youuuuu
Cause baby you got it, and you got me
I got a thing for ya

I won't tell - Fat Joe

If he/she has to hide you honestly ask yourself if this relationship is truly beneficial to you. What qualities are you lacking, OR possessing, that they don't want the world to know their seeing you? There is a HUGE difference between, keeping the actual business of your relationship private, from keeping the actual RELATIONSHIP private. Imagine if you had a friend, and the friend told you, we can only be friends in private places, but when we're in the public let's just not speak. You'd think twice about this person, right? Well why don't we ever do the same with intimate relationships? I say we, because I am included in this. I may not have been a 'secret' per say, but Ive been in relationships that I have not known where I stood, or what we were really doing. People assumed whatever they wanted when seeing us, but the truth of the matter was, we followed suit with 'keeping us, between us'. Looking back, all I ask myself is why? What's weird is, that part of me enjoyed the thrill of it all.


'If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it'. This isn't just a quote, its 100% the truth. What is this person subliminally telling you, by keeping you a secret? Will this person, ever really be who you WANT them to be? Of course not. I think it's also important that we STOP, lying to ourselves. We know if a person is going to give us what we need, want, & deserve by their actions. If it's clear that this person isn't going to, take the proper steps and MOVE ON. You will only hurt yourself in the end, by prolonging the inevitable. I know it sounds harsh, but I am the queen of prolonging the inevitable. Why though? What was truly the point? All it did, was cause me more tears, and waste a lot of time I'll never get back. You're going to meet A LOT of people in life, and some unfortunately, are only going to be in it, for a short period of time, but that's OK. Allow everyone to follow their own paths, even if it doesn't lead to you.

if you were a secret how long could you keep it
keep it to yourself don’t tell nobody else

What If I kissed you-Drake

Today, if anyone asked me this, I'd say, I am no one's secret. I have a lot of wonderful qualities to show the world, and if you're lucky enough to be in my life, then you should be proud to have me. This goes for ANY relationship. I would not keep my best friend from the world, nor would I hide my significant other. Does this mean I'm going to go around screaming 'so & so is my boyfriend?' No, that's never been me, but just like Beyonce & Jay-z our relationship would be clear to the outside. WE wouldn't go around volunteering any information, because quite frankly, that's private to us, but we definitely wouldn't go around denying each other. A relationship no matter the type, is a friendship first. I don't know about you, but I'd rather not have the friend, if they felt the need to deny our friendship. We all have wonderful qualities about ourselves, and if we are allowing ourselves to be secrets, we're denying ourselves from what we truly DESERVE. So, I ask you, If YOU were a secret, how long could you keep it?