Career Vs. Love. Choose Wisely

“Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you're wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn't love you anymore.” Lady Gaga

A lot of people fear solitude. We see relationships, and we idolize them. We crave, what we think they have, because of how it looks from the outside looking in. Everyone wants the 'Martin & Gina" "Beyonce & Jay" "Michelle & Barack" love. No one cares what work it took to get these relationships to the point they're at. Instead of analyzing each person in the relationship, they fall in love with the idea. Why don't enough strive to better themselves before worrying about having a counterpart? Females want a man that lives alone, drives a nice car, & makes good money, but don't have any of the things they're demanding. Does this even make sense? Men want a female that cooks, cleans, gives it to him on demand, and to still have something going for her, but he has nothing going for himself. Something is seriously wrong with this equation. First things first, you can't demand something from someone, that you yourself don't have.  I want a man who lives alone, but how can I demand that , when I still live at home? At 4 am, when I get off, I'd love for a man to pick me up in a 2013 ride, but where's mine? I've heard many people say they want their significant other to have this, and that, and they themselves hardly have a pot to piss in, nor are they making steps to better themselves. Love is wonderful, but when the time is right. You have to have something going for yourself, before you can worry about a relationship. 

One thing I can't relate to, is someone without ambition. A person who can sit home all day, every day, and not do AT LEAST one thing productive for themselves. I could never be anyone's house wife, because quite frankly, I get bored easily. I will never choose a man over a career, not ever. It's so much more important to achieve things by myself, for myself, so whoever I end up with can look at me in admiration and love, because of how ambitious I am. I want the same thing in a spouse. His grind has to continue to inspire mine. 

If you have to choose, choose a career. A person who loves you, would never ask you to choose. A career represents stability. It represents independence. It represents security, and financial freedom for yourself, without having to feel like you owe anyone anything. I have only one real life person who inspires me, and that is one of my aunts. She worked hard all her life, and due to this was able to retire at the age of 30. She worked, then married, & then had kids. She now, does whatever she pleases, because she has that luxury. Her marriage, unfortunately after over 18 years, eventually led to divorce. WHY? because her husband was controlling, with everything that had to do with money. HER money. That SHE worked her ass off for. (He too, worked hard, and retired before 40) She is the happiest I've ever seen a person, and I need that. The picture above, is her back yard. Thats HER boat. She is financially free, and in a healthy relationship, that has her blushing like a teenaged girl.

 Don't feel bad for choosing you, for thinking about the bigger picture, rather than the now. A relationship isn't forever,  so plant the seeds for yourself. You can achieve both, if the partner is right. Whoever it is, should keep you on your grind, They should know what you want to achieve, and be an annoying alarm clock that always keeps you on task. Fall in love with a person's ambition, & mind, and then you'll never have to choose between career or love. You'll be one of the lucky few who is able to have both. 

I want to, no scratch that, I NEED to be able to demand for my partner to have at least 100,000 in his savings. I need to be able to demand for him to have goals, and to be a constant work in progress. I need to be able to get turned on, by his work ethic. I need to be able to demand whatever it is that I deem fit at that moment. I can't do that until I can demand the same things from myself. I'm a fair sport, so I won't ask things of a person, that I myself cannot produce. I'm working on being able to wake up to a view like my aunt. I woke up to it the day I took that picture, and stared out in amazement. I imagined what it would be like to wake up to that everyday. To be able to know that you have this view because of all the work you put in. Choose love, but choose to love yourself first. Love yourself enough to choose your career, for your future self, and future partner. Don't short change yourself. You are and should forever be your favorite love story <3

With lots & lots of love, 

--A